A Little History On a Blended Family and THUNDESTORM!

When I met my husband (Sunshine) 4 years ago I found out that he had a daughter with an ex girfriend (Thunderstorm). This daughter (Butterfly) is now 10 years old. When  Sunshine was with Thunderstorm he was young and dumb as they usually call it. He was with Thunderstorm for a couple of years but they split up right after Butterfly was born due to Thunderstorm and her crazy crazy self. Since then a lot has happened with this woman. It started out that I didnt mind Thunderstorm too much because we always had Butterfly and Thunderstorm had too many boyfriends to see and too many parties to go to so not seeing her all that often was a little easy to deal with. After awhile however that completely changed. At first me and Butterfly didnt have the best relationship, she was 6 and of course her even thinking anyone was with Sunshine upset her soI was just one of Daddy's FRIENDS. After awhile however she got used to me and the relationship has just grown to be pretty good. I had my other daughter (lets call her flower) a year or so after we got together. Of course Butterfly was a little jealous but all in all excited. That changed the MOMENT Flower was born. Butterfly learned the talent of manipulaiton and playing  everyone against each other. Of course she was 7 at the time and some children go through this stage. We had a new baby in the house and she was worried that the attention was going away from her. Which is normal. There were a few problems with Thunderstorm before all this but like I said not any really too bad because she was hardly ever around. However things started changing for the worst. Thunderstorm started acting like she was the greatest mother in the world completely forgetting all of the wrong doing she has ever done. Anyway a lot happended. She is the kind of person that only worries about herself only acts like she cares for Butterfly when it is convenient for her. She neglects this child and only cares about her latest boy toy. Sunshine told her we were taking her to court to get custody of Butterfly because she was not being taken care of at her mothers. She automatically said "Well I'll get you for child support".Thats the exact way she handles stuff. Mind you Butterfly was always with us until Thunderstorm found out that we wanted custody and then constantly kept Butterfly away from Sunshine. Of course while court was going on Thunderstorm was an angel. Doing things for Butterfy acting like she loved her more than anyone else could possibly love her, buying her everything she could possibly want letting Butterfly do whatever she wanted. Yes we love Butterfly but we were not about to give into this little girl and give her EVEYTHING she wants just because her mother was doing the same thing. Needless to say we didnt get much out of court because we had a pretty crappy lawyer but we settled on  reasonable visitations, every other weekend, holiday, every other week in the summer and so on. Well that was then and this is NOW! After all of the court stuff subsided Thunderstorm went back to her normal self. Leaving Butterfy with some of Thunderstorms friends so that she could go see her fiance in prison. Butterfly was constantly coming to our house saying her mom never cleans her house they have no heat in the winter they have no hot water in the bathroom so she doesnt take baths until she comes back to our house Her and her brother dont get to eat until 3 in the afternoon becuase they cant cook and their mom doesnt wake up till then. WE ARE GOING BACK TO COURT! Thunderstorm manipulated Butterfly the first time because she was only 7 years old. Butterfly is now 10 and very aware that her mom just "fooled" her. Butterfy constantly tells us of Thunderstorm's sugar daddy ( not the fiance, she has a fiance in prison and some 65 year old man that buys her stuff and pays her bills that they met while Thunderstorm was a stipper) and no the sugar daddy and the fiance dont know about each other.Nice way to teach your child that its okay to be with a multiple of guys. She tell us how "Mommy got new boobs because this guy paid for them" or she says " Mommy and this guy got into it while we were out of town in Kansas City so me mommy and bubba left and slept in the parking lot of Motel 6." Or "Mommy keeps getting in trouble because social services comes because I dont go to school." Mind you this woman lives right across the street from the school and cant get Butterfly to school because she sleeps till noon and she doenst think school is important to a 10 year old. We went to a parent teacher conference (one that we were not invited to, Thunderstorm seems to think Butterfly doesnt have a father) and to make a long story short, because Thunderstorm was served court papers for modification of custody (what we are going to court for now) she flipped out on Butterfly threatened her and we tried to protect Butterfly and had to end up putting Thunderstorm in jail for assaulting Sunshine. Anyway all in all we are waiting to hear from the Gaurdian Ad Litem as to what she thinks will happen. Our lawyer seems to think that if Butterfly just tells her lawyer what she has been telling all of us that we are set in "GOLD" Anyway last night was not too bad UNTIL we get a text message from Thunderstorm. Pretty much saying that she has better things to do this year than to bring butterfly to softball. usually when she says that we later find out its becuase Thunderstorm was with a friend and didnt feel like being a mother that day. Butterfly LOVES softball and is excited to play every year but because Thunderstorm does not have a good reputation around the coaches and other team mates parents becuase she is a nut Butterfly gets embarrassed when she has to be around people that her mom has flipped out on. I will have to let you know the severity of some of these stories on another post just giving you a little background. Anyway because Butterfly's coach called Sushine last night instead of Thunderstorm she flipped out. She texted us saying she is going to rip Butterfly off of the team because she is Butterfly's mom and the coach should  be calling her not  Sunshine. Whatever! This post is a mess I know, but so many things I waned to put in so that you understood how crazy this woman could be. But looking forward to having people read my blogs I can GUARENTEE there will be more DRAMA down the road with this woman. Butterfly has a game tonight so if Thunderstorm actually brings her Im sure the drama will start up again, I love going to games and being able to relax and know that I dont have to deal with drama but of course with Thunderstorm there drama is sure to follow. More post later!!